After finding out that our marriage could not save Juan's citizenship, Juan and I kind of broke down and became suspicious paranoids.As a result, he decided he should move out. He is going to move out Nov 1 and wishes us to remain friends. He told me tonight he has not has romantic feelings for me for some time, but just great affection. I cried myself to sleep within his arms that were soothing me and just woke up, his naked body wrapped around me.
It may be the best thing in the world for me but I feel...well you get the idea what I feel.
*sigh*
It may be the best thing in the world for me but I feel...well you get the idea what I feel.
*sigh*
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Re: Juan
Mon, October 15, 2007 - 12:02 AMDani,,I do feel what you are going through,,,I am kinda at the same point,,just without the personal contact,,we are working through our nasty fight.. I saw him last night for dinner,,he "dropped me off" at my house,,told me he loved me,,I broke down n' cried,,,he said everything is fine,,,, that he would call in the next couple of days,,and on that note I kissed him told him I love him and went inside.. He called to say he had arrived home safe,,told me he was tired,,told him to get some rest luv ya,, goodnight.
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Mon, October 15, 2007 - 6:34 PMyeah Juan's been like that...all maybe we should end it but I'll call you later to tell you I made it home so you don't worry...WHAT>?
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Mon, October 15, 2007 - 9:17 PMRight. While I can understand the pain that you probably are going through, I have to ask myself, why here?
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Tue, October 16, 2007 - 12:18 AM----
What goes up must come down
Spinnin' wheel got to go 'round
Talkin' 'bout your troubles it's a cryin' sin
Ride a painted pony let the spinnin' wheel spin
You got no money and you got no home
Spinnin' wheel all alone
Talkin' 'bout your troubles and you never learn
Ride a painted pony let the spinnin' wheel turn
Did you find the directing sign on the
Straight and narrow highway
Would you mind a reflecting sign
Just let it shine within your mind
And show you the colors that are real
Someone is waiting just for you
Spinnin' wheel, spinnin' true
Drop all your troubles by the riverside
Catch a painted pony on the spinning wheel ride
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Lyrics to Spinning Wheel -- Blood, Sweat, and Tears
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Tue, October 16, 2007 - 12:48 AMDani,,My BF is blind in one eye, and driving at night is a challenge for him , hence why he called to let me know he arrived okay. I asked him to call.
And then don't worry, everything is fine,,, is we are getting together after a month of not seeing each other after an ugly fight,and ugly words exchanged,,and all due apologies have been exchanged,,conversations a couple of dinner dates,,and now back to things normal,,I am hoping,, It looks promising from my POV. -
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Tue, October 16, 2007 - 1:01 AMOh I understood your situation...just it's happening over here too.
I did a series of bad things though...and refused to see me as the perpetrator. Men tend to act like nothing can hurt them...and they don't tell us when we have. And then they collect it...which makes us try harder to get a rise. Which makes them collect more and then we don't understand when they pack their stuff, cause they never gave us a chance to know or change our behavior.
And by that time we are like, then pack your things mo fo! And then they do and we cry. And then they are all confused cause we were so mean.
damn relationships.
Just pretend it's a book, Ther, it's a damn good drama anyway.
Juan said the cutest thing today, he said he was like a crumpled paper where, try as I might, I can't smooth him out to feel perfect again. I couldn't hear him for all my own creases and above the flames in the wastebasket I was in. But what ev, I apologized. -
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Tue, October 16, 2007 - 9:16 AMCommunication is so key, and so hard. I am still adjusting to the whole "processing" routine that at first came across to me as so much psychobabble. I'm just starting to get the hang of it, and Mary and I have been together going on 12 years now. And it's not just words -- it's body language and tone of voice that pushes different buttons for different people.
But communicating all that is worth the effort. If we're lucky, we'll still be working on it 10, 20, 30 etc. years from now.
I hope that whatever happens between you and Juan is for the best for both of you.
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Wed, October 17, 2007 - 9:47 PM"I did a series of bad things though..."
I love that line.
Ya should've listened to me and married the guy last year! But I think you need to move on, too, whatever he's doing.
Dani's extra credit reading assignment: Diane Williams, Excitability.
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Thu, October 18, 2007 - 1:23 AMElissa,,,By the way I LOVE your name. AND ,yes communication is all important,,sometimes the communication gets distorted due to language differences, hispanic men have a dfferent way of expressing than American women do,, I have a Puerto Rican BF,,and at times we have some stilted conversations,,and explaining it, or decifering the conversation can become a diversion,, but a lesson learned on both parts,, a difficult task at times,,by the way , I am starting to try and learn Spanish as a second language at the tender age of 54! He Hee,,,!!! -
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Thu, October 18, 2007 - 8:41 PMJosh you read, but never listen to a word I say. *sigh* -
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Re: Juan
Fri, October 19, 2007 - 11:21 PMJM,Think we could make Juan "get conscious?"!!!! Wake up and smell the cafe latte? -
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Re: Juan
Sat, October 20, 2007 - 8:48 PMHey I'm going to Turkey! Really! This summer, I'm taking students to Europe and we'll be in Turkey!!
Josh!
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Tue, October 23, 2007 - 3:46 AMNein. Aber er ist in Deutchland in sommer. Mit mich... -
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Wed, October 24, 2007 - 9:49 AMyou won't be in Turkey this summer?
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Wed, October 24, 2007 - 9:52 PMWhen are you coming, and where else are you going? -
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Thu, October 25, 2007 - 10:09 AMWe are going to London, Italy, Greece, turkey, Rome and a number of other places that have holy shrines and such. I am not sure of the exact dates...
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Thu, October 25, 2007 - 10:35 PMUm...they use to...so much has changed since the Reformation... -
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Fri, October 26, 2007 - 3:35 AMHas it?
Maybe I should go back and check it out again some time now.
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Sat, October 27, 2007 - 10:30 AMAnd to think I wasted all my time in museums and concerts and running around experimenting with drugs. -
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Re: Juan
Thu, November 1, 2007 - 2:36 PMDang it all JM. You could have been working on your sainthood. -
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Re: Juan
Fri, November 2, 2007 - 4:26 AMI didn't realize my sainthood had ever been in question.
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